11 Feb 2007: Safely and Happily Home

From halfway around the world, over 28 hours from 4:30 a.m. wake-up call to touchdown in Boston at 7:00 p.m., we journeyed home with AiLi. Thanks to the vagaries of time zones, we departed China on Wednesday, February 7 and arrived back in North America on the same day. Considering the distance, her age and experience, AiLi did extremely well, awake most of the time but not disturbing any other passengers. Her sleepy mother spent the lion’s share of the trip with her daughter, with occasional respite care by Daddy Ira, Auntie Susan and Great Cousin Marilyn. (No upgrade this time, unfortunately, and we were seated in various locations around the plane.) By Chicago, our entry point to the U.S., we were all suffering from frayed nerves, exhaustion, cramped muscles and too many line-ups, but the voyage was relatively smooth with no airline delays, thankfully.

We were thrilled to be greeted at Logan by a surprise delegation of the Driscoll family: Karen’s brother Sean and his wife Joan, with daughters Siobhan (3) and Nora (1); and Karen’s brother Fran, who had just flown in from D.C. We were caught unprepared and so have no photos of this wonderful welcoming committee with their beautiful hand-made signs, smiling faces and warm, enthusiastic hugs. They also brought gifts and food, and made our arrival a true celebration. Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness!!!!

As we have been getting over our jet lag these past three or four days, AiLi continues to thrive. She has had her first visit to the pediatrician, Dr. Whitman, who has diagnosed her to be in fine form and likely to make rapid progress both in terms of her growth and intellectual development. She is smiling a lot, imitating sounds, gestures and facial expressions with enthusiasm, learning to play with her toys and sleep in her own room. Her particular favorite is the toy piano, which provides ample opportunity for banging on the keys while producing beautiful music. (This was one of Daddy’s best finds at the exchange area of the Wayland dump, batteries included.)

Cousin Marilyn and Auntie Susan both left on Thursday, sorry to say good-bye to AiLi and feeling so lucky to have been included in this miraculous and uplifting experience. Like all of you, we will watch AiLi’s development with interest and affection, and hope that the opportunities to get together come often and come soon.

We love you, AiLi! Thanks for blessing our lives with your sweet presence. As Charles Dickens said, “It is no small thing to be loved by one so fresh from God.”

Auntie Susan

6 Feb 2007: Homeward Bound!

Our last day in Guangzhou and China has dawned. It has been an incredible and exhilerating journey, first and foremost because of the addition of AiLi to our family, but also because of the amazing opportunity we’ve had to experience three fascinating areas of this vast, energized and exciting country.

Since arriving in Guangzhou late Friday evening, AiLi has been blessed by a monk at the Temple of the Six Banyans; we’ve taken a sunset dinner cruise on the Pearl River, the buildings on the shore lit with spectacular brilliance; heard Chinese opera sung under the bridge leading to the hotel, with accompaniment by traditional instruments; and shopped till we dropped at the Pearl Market and area stores and street stalls, of which there are thousands, if not millions.

Most important, all of AiLi’s US visa processing has been completed. She will become an official American citizen as soon as she passes through Immigration and Customs in Chicago at 11:44 a.m. Central Time on Wednesday, February 7.

Though we leave China with some regret and a firm intention to return, we are all looking forward to getting home, sharing our pictures, observations and memories with all of you, and, most important, introducing you to our darling AiLi, who is everyday growing, blossoming and becoming Ira and Karen’s daughter.

Auntie Susan

It’s not about me anymore.

It is a most humbling experience, to say the least, to be led into a room and handed a child who will be totally dependent upon you for the next few decades. To witness the anguish in the childs face as she sees the nanny who has taken care of her for the past 18 months give her a last hug and kiss, walk out the door and vanish from her life forever.

She may never remember this happening to her, but the image will be with me for the rest of my life.

This blog was started to give AiLi a record, and share with our friends and family, our experience of her adoption and travel back to the place I hope she will accept as her home. I want it to also convey the love many people have shown for her and all of the children who are searching for happy endings. It is meant to give her a small picture of the world she came from and perhaps encourage her to return with a curiosity for what, by then, it has become.

For Karen and I this will truly be the trip of a life time, more challenging, rewarding and life changing than any dive trip!

We have already begun to experience the rewards of knowing AiLi, witnessing her personality blooming over the past week, her recognition of us as people she knows and not anymore as strangers.

And, her smiling and laughing, more and more and more.

As I begin to get anxious to return home and get back to familiar patterns and daily routines, it’s obvious to me that those things have forever been changed.
For Aili those daily routines and patterns have also been changed forever.

She is no longer an orphaned little girl with no home.

Papa Ira

Spicy girl!

Rose “the best guide in all of China” has given AiLi the nickname of spicy girl. Half named for the cuisine from her native province and half for her spicy personality. Nowhere was this more evident than the plane ride from Hefei to Changzhou. She was about as loud and shrill as any unhappy child I have heard on a plane. We started off fine enough with her sitting quietly in her seat playing with the boarding passes but when I had to hold her on my lap for take-off, she started wailing and prety much kept at it for the entire flight. The doctor we are traveling with thinks she was suffering from gas. I think she was being kind. She gave her some medicine which did help a bit. Thankfully having witnessed Nora’s discomfort with her bouts of colic and reflux, I’ve had some experience with greatly distressed babies. I’m hoping we have an easier time of it on the flight home.

Every day is a day of discovery for us all. She has progressed from spoons to sugar packets to promotional flyers as her favorite toys. She loves to hold things, feel their texture and pass them from hand to hand. It can entertain her for hours! If she doesn’t like something she has no problem letting us know. We’ve got the fake cry down pat and just laugh at her when she tries it out on us now. If someone is looking at her and she doesn’t like it, boy, does she give them a look. She gives it to Mommy every once in a while as well but never Daddy. She’s smiling more and more every day and Daddy can even get an occasional belly laugh out of her. Her walking is improving as well. She takes a few steps unaided now and then but is still pretty fearful of falling down so she doesn’t try too hard. It’s been a week of firsts. We took in our first outdoor concert today at the riverside park next to our hotel in Guangzhou. We had our first poopy diaper, first steps, first laugh, first tubby (first fart in the tub as well, which she didn’t quite understand), first bus ride, plane ride and walk in a stroller. Her world has turned upside down and she is taking it all in stride. She is also becoming verbal. Yesterday when we put her in her crib for a nap, instead of falling off to sleep, she played (with her promotional flyer), talked to herself and overall had a great time of it.

As a group we have been very lucky. All the babies are doing great and everyone is healthy. And yes Joan, small world….18 month year old Hannah Autrey is in our group. The Autrey’s are from Hingham and an incredibly nice family. They are traveling with their three boys; a set of 11 year old twins and a 13 year old. The boys are so sweet with all the babies, 11 year old Nick is especially enamored with AiLi. They are the family that traveled with us to Huainan and are in the picture where we are all seated in the farmers courtyard.

We continue to be quite the center of attention wherever we go and have not yet been admonished by the clothing police…..little old chinese ladies that will walk right up and yell at you if your babies are not bundled up. The Autrey’s are like a traveling circus. In a country that values boys over girls and only allows one child per family, you can imagine the stares they get with three boys and one little Chinese girl. People will walk right up to us to get a close look at AiLi and then we get either a thumbs up (universal meaning) or heads nodding (universal meaning) or big smiles (universal meaning). We have also found that those Chinese that know a little English will walk right up to us and engage in conversation. We think they like to do that to test how good their English is. Surprisingly, speaking English is very important. When we were visiting the village outside of Huainan, one of the older men told us through Rose, that they were very proud that their grandchild was learning English in school. Sadly in most of these villages the parents travel to the cities to earn a living leaving their children in the villages with their grandparents.

For the most part everyone here is appreciative of what we are doing for the lost girls of China, what they don’t quite understand is that we are the lucky ones.



Karen